We live in an angry and divided culture. This is true for politics, ethical issues, religion, and even sports. As a result, many people fear engaging others in meaningful conversations. We dont want to get into unnecessary arguments, so we avoid the difficult issues.

In my experience, however, most people are willing to have important conversations when we approach them the right way. I have had wonderful dialogue with people on issues as divisive as race, abortion and even politics. The simple principle is to treat people the way we would want them to treat us 簫 the Golden Rule.

Yet, in reality, this is often easier said than done. How do we put the Golden Rule in practice? Here's four quick tips to meaningfully engage others. Go for it!

1. Be Holy and Filled with the Holy Spirit. In other words, before engaging other people in dialogue on sensitive topics, make sure you are living in obedience to Jesus. The reason is simple: Its only when we have genuine peace in our lives that we can engage people who see the world differently with kindness, grace and generosity. Its only when we first find our identity in Jesus, not in some position we hold, that we can treat people rightly amidst disagreement. I love the emphasis on looking in the mirror honestly and critically first. We need to learn to love Jesus so we can properly love others.

2. Hear the Person, Not Just Their Position. In other words, remember that people are more than their views. People cannot be reduced simply down to a brain on a stick. While our worldview shapes how we live and see the world, we need to remember that people have experiences, relationships, hopes and dreams. Its only when we take the time to truly hear about the person, rather than thinking about the next smart response to their claims, that we engage in meaningful conversations.

3. Speak Only When You Know What Youre Talking 51蹤獲. This is truly great advice. We tend to think that if weve read an article, listened to a podcast, or watched a YouTube video then we have a valid opinion. This may be the case, but often it is not. Rather than being quick to speak, we should be quick to listen, learn and understand before speaking. If you don't know what you're talking about, just ask questions or stay silent.

4. Show Love Through Words and Actions. The ultimate goal of having important conversations is to love people. Asking good questions, and truly listening to their answers, is one powerful means of expressing this. M. Scott Peck, the author of The Road Less Traveled, once said that listening is the best way to love someone. Given the significant increase in loneliness today, which is (ironically) connected to social media, Peck is probably even more right today than when he said it. We all feel loved when someone truly hears us out.

Lets not shy away from important conversations. If you embrace the Golden Rule, and follow the four points Sherrard suggests, you might be surprised how often you find yourself in a meaningful conversation.

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